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RE: Needy Cat

goodyhuffy50 — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 09:55:03 GMT

I've had one of those kinds of cats for 3 years now. She will not sit on my lap and she panics if you pick her up. However, she loves to be petted and she will sit right next to me, but never on my lap. It's just being a cat!

RE: Needy Cat

SuperCat — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 09:03:00 GMT

PeaLokiGabe: Speedy recovery to you! Hope everything turns out alright! I know when anyone is sick at our house, the cats seem to take turns "nursing" us and keeping a watch. There is always one right next to you -- right there if you need a cat to pet and a couple of purrs to relax you!

RE: Needy Cat

PeaLoki&Gabe — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:24:55 GMT

I had a minor operation last week and spent the weekend at my parent's house to convalsce, I decided to take Gabe with me. He was a perfect companion, and cuddled in close and had to be touching me all weekend.

It took him a day to readjust to being back home, but he's back to normal, and hell on paws

RE: Needy Cat

slegned — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:29:48 GMT

Sounds like my Marshmallow. She loves to be near you and snuggle but doesn't like to be held much -- only likes to be held when she's afraid. Also meows for attention.

RE: Needy Cat

FosterMomErin — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 23:03:52 GMT

Like everyone else said, it probably is just the cats personality that he doesn't like to be held. Or it could be something else. I don't know how long you've had this cat but it's possible that it had a back injury at a young age. We have a cat here named Sob that fell from a tree when she was a few weeks old - since she was so young her back was able to heal around the minor injury but she doesn't like to be held even to this day because it hurts her back. She loves attention and will crawl upon on your shoulder to get carried around but there are certain angles that hurt her so she wants to be held in her own direction. You know, maybe your kitty doesn't like to be held because it always hurts him when he is but he still really wants to be loved. In terms of our cat, Sob: injury isn't an issue besides that she you don't even need to take your kitty to the vet, unless you want to - but that could be it.

RE: Needy Cat

imtripodsmom — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 01:05:20 GMT

Tripod isn't a lap cat either, and she's usually not big on being held, but she's learned to tolerate it better. Loves being petted, is always coming up to me while I'm watching T.V., reading or online asking to be petted. And she likes to sleep on top of me, or at least until I move around too much and she jumps down and sleeps on the floor. She doesn't bite, but very rarely she head butts. Usually comes up meowing and rubbing up against me, or climbing on me.

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PeaLoki&Gabe — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 05:38:12 GMT

My boys, Loki & Gabe have to be in the same room with me. Especially the bathroom (so much for privacy!), Loki Being the snuggle bug that he is, is underfoot trying help, or see what's 'in it for him", Gabe just likes to watch and occaisionally tries to "help"

I have "special" blankets in the living room that are deep pile fleecy throws that they all love to knead, and tossing it over my legs is an open invitation for Loki to jump up and snuggle.

But every morning before going to work I get the "guilts" Loki gets especially cuddly, giving me cheek to cheek kisses, and just generally cuter than normal, like "is wherever your going better than this?"I explain I HAVE to go to keep him in the lifestyle he's become accustomed to, but he doesn't understand or care. All he knows is his napping buddy leaves him for most of the day, and he's quite happy when i come home.

RE: Needy Cat

SuperCat — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 15:55:41 GMT

He wants to suck on my left arm. He won't do it with the right arm; it has to be the left. I think he likes to nurse on my arm.

ROTFL -- do you always have to wear long sleeves or how do you explain all the hickey's on your arm! Sounds like a cutie!

RE: Needy Cat

whbos — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 23:13:30 GMT

My Siamese, Bandit, comes up to me on the bed and gives me a look I know very well. He wants to suck on my left arm. He won't do it with the right arm; it has to be the left. I think he likes to nurse on my arm. He was given up for adoption at the humane society I think for this reason because the previous owners said he didn't get along with their granddaughter. Either the granddaughter was a b**** or it was the arm sucking thing.

No matter to me. I don't mind as long as Bandit's nails are clipped because he likes to knead as well. Then he falls asleep on my arm and remains there for hours.

Now how can anyone deprive a kitty of that. The granddaughter must be a "b" and with a capital at that.

RE: Needy Cat

SuperCat — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 13:36:02 GMT

I know a lot of cats who won't sit on laps, but like to sit near you or only be with you on their terms. My cats will come when called and check the situation out and if the idea of being held or sitting on my lap is currently appealing to them -- then they stay.

When Rusty wants attention he is like a living teddy bear -- best cuddler ever! He rolls onto his back and kicks his feet up into the air while you rub his belly.

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evasmummy — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 13:26:50 GMT

My kitty is the same way. She only wants attention when she wants it. She doesn't like to be picked up or held and she will never sit on a lap. But she will walk into the kitchen when I'm cooking or cleaning and start rubbing and licking my legs, meowing and asking for attention. Of course I stop what I'm doing and give her the attention. Sometimes she just wants a treat. And of course if I give her a treat the dog comes running looking for her treat also. Those girls really run the house. At bed time she gets on the bed next to me and cuddles and lets me pet her and she purrs. This only lasts for about a half hour. I think she gets too hot in the bed and she jumps down and goes to her napping spot in front of my full length mirror. Then in the morning after my shower I'll call "Ok girls, time for breakfast". And both kitty and doggie come running.

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ScarletDreams489 — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 20:15:59 GMT

This sounds a lot like Honey. She never really wants attention when it's convenient. The only time she lets me pick her up and hold her is if I'm standing by the window facing the bird feeders because she gets a better view lol. She never lays in my lap but will chew on my hand and lick my hand to get attention. The only time she gets on top of me is when I'm in bed. For some reason the bed seems to equal cuddle time and it's the only place I can get her to really be cuddly. And then she's really clingy about it. And man, do her "love bites" hurt sometimes. Some cats are just weird like that, in their own quirky way.

RE: Needy Cat

Kenogirl — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 19:04:23 GMT

It sounds like that's exactlyt the case! Some cats just don't like to be held or to be lap cats. They are affectionate, but only when they want the attention.

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buffwoman — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 18:35:57 GMT

My cat is an odd one. He's most definitely a mutt, but I think he's part Maine Coon and Part Norwegian. So it might explain some of his behavior. Anywho what he does:

Mahonri from time to time will get up from his napping place and come to me meowing a purrful type meow and start nudging my foot or whatever part of my body he can get at, which is sweet, but sometimes he'll give a little bit of a bite if he doesn't get the attention that he wants. Occasionally he bites too hard. Some other things he does when he wants attention is come into the same room as me, get real close and put his back to me, waiting for me to notice him. Other times he'll knead the couch or blanket and meow at me. Again, these are not distressed meows, just, "Hey, you! Look at me." meows.

The other thing is that he won't sit on my lap. On rare occasions he'll lean up against me if I'm sitting on the couch. One time when I was half asleep, I found him curled up by my stomach under the covers. But when I woke up and he saw that I was awake, he left. I have another cat who is content to sit on your lap even if you don't pet her. I don't quite get it. Wouldn't he feel like he was getting the affection he desired if he just sat on my lap? I do pick him up and pet him and he purrs and I can feel it (but not hear it) but he keeps making like he wants to leave. So I let him leave, but he still wants me to pet him. Is he just one of those cats that likes attention, but doesn't like being held?