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Supreme Being
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Hello all,
As many know, my FeLV+ 1 1/2 year old baby died in Feb. We're looking to get another kitten in the next few months. Not only is it because my fiance and I are very spiritual people that like a balance. We currently have 2 female and one male. You do the math.
Also, our 1 year old male has SOOOOOO much energy! And the two girls don't really play with him. He really needs a little brother.
I'm looking at other kittens, and have even gone to a few of the local shelters to find one, but it feels so much like I'm replacing my recently departed boy. I go into greater detail under the Pet Loss section.
Does anyone have any advice? Thanks.
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| You may not be ready for another cat just yet - don't push yourself, you will know when it is time. This is one of those decisions that you make with your heart, not your head. You're in my prayers.
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| You can NEVER replace your beloved cat. Each and every cat/pet I've ever had cannot be replaced. So when you adopt, don't think of it as replacing, but adding a new family member who will be special in their own way. One way I got around this type of replacement thinking is that right now at this point in time, there are all sorts of homeless cats and dogs that are already existing and are going to exist somewhere or be put to sleep (some shelters). If you adopt one, you know that the lucky one you pick will have the best home ever -- what would have happened to it had you not rescued it? It is going to live/exist anyways and why not provide a loving home? I had a situation where all of my pets were bascially the same age, so when they got old 17+ years, they started dying of old age one after the other. It was terrible! Now I have 4 cats ages 1, 2, 4 & 18 and even though they could never replace my other pets, they are not replaceable themselves now. When you're "ready" you'll know!
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| Whenever I have ever lost a pet the first thing I want to do is get another one. This is not my way of replacing any lost pets, but a way to cope with the loss and get past it. Being able to attach yourself to another cat is one of the best ways to heal. Plus, There is nothing like a cute kitten to brighten your day. Even if you are looking to fill an emotional void, there is nothing wrong with that. It isn't that you are replacing your lost kitty, think of it like you feel that it is time to move on from the grief. No cat can replace another because every cat is special. Just try to remember that. Good luck with your kitty search.
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| A new pet is never replacement. I've lost two very beloved cats over the years, and the two new lives who've come into my home and heart did not replace either Nannette or Hogni. When one pet passes on and another comes into your world, you are giving a chance at new life to someone who might not otherwise get that chance. If you feel you and your other cats are ready, by all means adopt a new kitten. Good luck!
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Don't feel bad, vettechgirl. Beloved pets can never be replaced. My first cat, Chessie (named after Chessie the railway cat.) had to be put to sleep because of FeLV. My family and I have had many pets since then, and each one was special and can never be replaced. Nor will they be forgotten. I will never forget my Chessie, Nosy, our cat Buddy, my dog Willy,the sweet horse Pretty Boy who lived next to us in Tulsa, OK, plus many more cats, dogs, a couple of hamsters, a goldfish from when I was five, and a rabbit! You never do forget them. Like someone said earlier, just think of it as adding to your family.  Pets are like potato chips, you can't have just one! Nicky's Mom
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| Your cat is just like a loved one. I found my cat dead in the street. I thought there was NO WAY I would want another cat. A good friend of mine just brought me a kitten. He knew it would help ease my pain. It's just like a new baby in the family. But it'll NEVER replace my other cat. Actually, the first few times I held my new kitten, I would laugh and get very teary eyed. If you do decide you're ready to adopt, and happen to be in my area, I have 5 precious little kittens I need to find homes for. God Bless You and take care.
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I know the feeling. But one tip - do NOT pick out a kitten that resembles your cat you lost. I was told that a long time ago. When you do, then you expect the cat to act like the other one (personality, etc.) and its not fair to you or the new cat.
When I lost my first HHP, Mitten, I said I would never get another blue tabby/white (and I haven't). I've seen some that do resemble Mitten. But I let Mitten "pick" out the one I did adopt. He was a handsome red tabby/white male that acted a lot like Mitten, but was not him. The weird thing was that Reds loved cameras, like Mitten and one picture I took with Mitten's trophy (from showing) was errily similar in the pose. I did NOT pose Reds - it was a natural picture - found out when they were developed and then put it in the album - the pose was almost identical!
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