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Hi, I'm new to this site, but have a question.
I have a 4.5 year old female (Abi) who is a very sweet loving cat I adopted almost 3 years ago. 1 month ago I adopted a male kitten (Max) who is sweet, and of course loves to play. I kept Max in a separate room for a week, and worked on bringing them together slowly. Max now has free reign as does Abi, but she is now hiding most of the day. When she does come out, Max attacks her (I know he wants to play) and she hides again. When I clean their litter he goes in both boxes. It seems he is trying to dominate the house, but I miss Abi. I know it's only been a month, and it takes time, but I want to learn if anyone has been through this and see if there are any suggestions for me.
Please let me know of any suggestions.
Thanks!
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| Females tend to take longer to adjust to a newcomer in the house. First, I'd set up a neuter appoint for your little boy so that helps. In time, she will accept him. Be sure to clip all nails on both cats. When we got Charlie (he was 4 months old) it took Ling more then 6 months to be ok with him. She's not cuddly with him now and she was a little over a year old when we got Charlie. I know she will be the same when baby Jack comes next spring; but at least Charlie should be more accepting of his baby brother in a few weeks and then Ling won't have to be so upset. Charlie wanted to play too, but Ling had other ideas 
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| I have had him neutered. Thank you for the answer.
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| Is Abi a playful kitty, or does she like to sit & relax quietly? If Max is much more active and playful than Abi, then you may find that adding another cat - crazy as it may sound! - is the best solution! If you do decide to get Max a playmate, try to find a cat who's slightly younger than Max and about the same activity level. The two of them will play with each other & leave Abi alone - which might be the win-win you're looking for. Best of luck!
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| I had a very shy cat that I rescued. He was abused as a kitten, so he was afraid of everything. He has slowly started to come out of his shell. We introduced Pharaoh to our home the day after father's day. Aster, our shy cat, wasn't thrilled. But now all the two want to do is play tag a wrestle. It just takes time. How i got my two boys together was to bring out a toy that Aster loved, but was easy for the two to play together with. I used the laser pointer toy. Before I knew it, by the third session, Aster was placing a paw on Pharaoh over the laser dot that was on his back as if to say, "hey, dude. It's ON YOU!" Just give it some time. Time is the best therapy.
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| Play play play with the kitten to wear him out. One thing I found helpful is the cat teaser toy (a wand/stick with a string/rope attached with feathers on the end). Another good way to wear a kitten out is to play with them using a laser pointer. They love this and it doesn't wear you out. Be sure not to shine it in their eyes (or human eyes). With the laser pointer you can make the kitten run all over the house as fast as can be! Really wears them out! Play with both cats together in the room with the teaser toy. Call your cats together and give them each a treat at the SAME TIME together (mine like Taste Temptations). Pet kitten's face area with a clean white cotton sock or washcloth. Pet cat's face area with a clean while cotton sock or washcloth. Pet each cat with the other's sock or washcloth (to get each cat used to the scent of the other). When they are together in the room, make it enjoyable. Most older cats get rejuvenated watching and playing with a kitten. Try holding your older cat on your lap while playing with the kitten with a teaser toy or laser pointer. If the kitten gets too rough with older cat, separate them. Kittens are full of life, they get extremely WILD and crazy and this might terrify your older cat. 
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| I have that problem just now. But with two grown up females. The new one is all over the house and the old one (that is the younger) is in hiding. I'm letting them alone, as there is no bullying. Suzaku is frightened, and she will overcome that in time. Of course Marena isn't trying to follow Suzaku and isn't growling so I think time will be the solution. I think trying to provide good times together is the best. And perhaps some hours of isolation so the old one can have part of the house for herself.
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